There are many different types of violence, but all of these listed have a common thread.


The person trying to control you is the one actually out of control. Abusers are deeply insecure; they must be in control of people and situations. When the abusers feel that they are losing control, they act out.

  • A push for a quick relationship
  • Jealous and possessive
  • Tries to control your life
  • Unrealistic expectations
  • Isolates you from friends and family
  • Blames others for his/her problems and mistakes
  • Makes everyone else responsible for his/her feelings
  • Says his/her feelings are easily hurt
  • Cruel to animals and children
  • “Playful” use of force during sex
  • Yells and calls you names
  • Rigid sex roles
  • Sudden mood swings
  • History of battering
  • Threats of violence
  • Threatens to reveal personal or damaging information about you or your family or employer

Types of Violence

  • Domestic Violence – In the home you live in.
  • Physical Abuse
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Economic Abuse
  • Emotional Abuse
  • Psychological Abuse
  • Dating Violence
  • Elderly Violence
  • Work Place Violence
  • Pet Violence

Sound Familiar?

  • Can’t you ever get anything right?
  • I can’t believe you didn’t know that!
  • Of course, I am right.
  • Why did you make me do that?
  • What would you do without me?
  • You really don’t want to do that.
  • If you don’t change your mind, it will make me really sad.
  • It’s a good thing I am sticking with you because you wouldn’t have any friends.
  • You aren’t thinking right.
  • Who taught you how to dress?
  • I changed our plan, I know you won’t mind.
  • Do you really think you look good in that outfit?
  • Why can’t you keep this house clean?
  • Is there a reason you are late coming home? Where were you?
  • Don’t you get it?
  • Your friends are really crazy.
  • Look at the family you came from, no wonder you are the way you are.
  • Where do you spend all of my money?