Belong: Write31Days

Belong is the word that Kate chose for day 6 of #write31days.


Belong conjures up family. And how mine didn’t function well.  I was a part of a blended family long before blended families were a “thing,” and we did not do it well.  My parents were divorced when I was so young I can’t remember them being married. Both parents remarried. My stepmother had never had children of her own and didn’t quite know what to do with us. My stepfather had four children of his own who had a very hard time with the fact that we had full-time access to their father. 

A major part of my story is that I grew up afraid of not belonging. I could not tell you how many times I heard from my mother, “If you don’t do xxx, then you can just go live with your father.”  It was a terrifying thought. Not only did I have a stepmom who seemed to not like me (although I did learn later she was a good woman who just had no clue about kids), but even more, I didn’t really know my father. I didn’t begin to know anything real about him until I was 18 years old.

There were a lot of consequences to living afraid of not belonging. I don’t talk about most of them. Let’s just say that attitude led to a lot of really bad decisions.

How grateful I am to belong to the family of God. I have brothers and sisters worldwide, past, present and future, and a Father who loves me no matter what. It’s the kind of belonging that warms me deep into my soul.

I love these verses from Paul:

So then let no one boast in men. For all things belong to you, whether Paul or Apollos or Cephas or the world or life or death or things present or things to come; all things belong to you,  and you belong to Christ; and Christ belongs to God. 1 Corinthians 3:21-23

I can’t imagine any better belonging than that. I hope you have that in your life. If you don’t, I’d love to talk with you about how you can get it. I’m just an email away!


5 thoughts on “Belong: Write31Days”

  1. So sorry to hear about the dysfunction you experienced as a child. What a journey you’ve taken to get to today where you KNOW belonging. Thanks for sharing and for offering that hope to others.

  2. Thanks so much for sharing! And it’s great to belong to a group of caring writers and readers too isn’t it. We can all benefit from your wisdom having gone through this and found your way with the Father.

  3. I know what it is like to feel as if you don’t belong in a family. But I’m so thankful for the family of God. There is so much love and acceptance. Blessings!

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